Human beings feel positive and negative emotions every day - it's a part of being human and it's our way of detecting what is good for us and what is not. So if we feel down after being with someone, it suggests that they have a draining effect on our energy field. If we feel good after spending time with someone, they have a positive effect on our energy field - there is a great scientific explanation for this presented by Dr Bruce Lipton here https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=82ShSNuru6c . So think of emotions as a way of determining what is good and not so good for us. Same goes for situations. Sometimes we go through something which puts us into emotional overload. Those types of events happen to us to teach us something - you can read about it in Many Lives, Many Masters by Dr Brian Weiss - our purpose for being here - our soul's growth. Part of healing that emotional overload is to keep processing the emotions until we heal that wound and learn the soul lesson of that event. One of mine was being bullied as a kid and then becoming a bully myself - when I finally healed that wound and overcame the behaviour pattern in myself, it became a tool for being powerful, strong and resilient when I need to confront shadow and darkness - I feel it flowing through me - this sense that I can confront, overcome and heal darkness (happens sometimes in Reiki when people bring dark energy in that needs to be removed during a healing) and also stand up to bullies, especially for children. So that was the gift of me being bullied and terrorised as a kid. There is a gift for you in what you've experienced, and as you unveil that gift you'll need to bring up and process or release the emotions until it turns into a life tool to use as a part of your purpose.
So what should we do when that old emotional wounding comes up to clear? Here's some steps:
Look out for Red Flags:
Work out what are signs that you are clearing old emotions. For example getting prickly and irritable all of a sudden, feel anxious, not good enough, self conscious, angry, judgmental, withdrawn, aggressive etc. When we start feeling like this for no obvious reason, it's a red flag that we're having an emotional clearing day - it's called 'clearing' (the emotional body) - ideally we should let loved ones know we were 'clearing' and that we might not be our selves so they don't take it personally. What are your red flags when you start to get emotionally wobbly? Start paying attention what happens when you don't feel yourself. Once you know what they are you'll be able to recognise that you've started 'clearing'.
Give the Emotion Your Attention:
When you notice a 'red flag' behaviour like feeling irritable, do something to check in with yourself and find out what's going on internally. I usually sit down on the bed (or in the loo if there's lots of people around) and ask myself 'What's wrong? What's bothering you today?' and then I think about things that usually push my buttons and when I get to the right one, I feel the emotion come up from my belly and sometimes get teary and I know then what it is that I'm clearing. So for example some of them were 'I'm boring' or 'I'm not good enough' or 'I'm invisible' Then if you feel like it, have a cry, let it out, just have a good sob if needed. When you do that you release that old emotion and you feel lighter and it's gone - it just needed to be acknowledged.
Change How You Feel:
Even if you haven't had a chance to check in with your emotions yet, start to work on changing how you feel straight away and building up your energy. Think of things you're grateful for, list as many as you can think of. Think what you'd like your day to be like, how you'd like to feel to create that. Do a Reiki self healing if you've learned Reiki. Go and sit in the garden and admire the beauty of the plants and trees. Go for a walk in nature. Have a salt bath. Listen to the Reiki meditation. Apply some essential oils. Play sound bowls. Do some gardening. All of these activities will lift your energy and your mood and bring you back to your best self. Not only will this improve how you're feeling, it will also make a difference to the people in your life as you are more likely to treat them with love and respect despite going through a wobble - and to me that makes it so worthwhile to work on myself!
That's it!!! Simple! Just takes some practice